Sense of Loss: Initial Shock

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Are you prepping to move to a country with a different culture? Or, maybe you’re being forced to move because of some unforeseen circumstance? These experiences can shock the body to its core. Your body and mind will go through changes. Changes that will feel overwhelming at times and feel as though it’s taking forever for you to adjust. I can assure you, this shock will ease up, but it’ll take some hard work. Culture shock is a stressful encounter, and when the mind is not comfortable to high amounts of stress, it can lead to a range of emotions and thoughts. From depression, to making irrational choices. A sense of hopelessness may surface prior to your move. I’m here to help ease that blow and show you some effects this may have on your body, and how to prepare.
Culture shock can be looked at as a type of travelling, but there’s a major difference. You’re going to live there. When that initial shock begins to resonate, you may find yourself in panic mode. This is not unusual. If you can’t relate, you’re just not there yet. Since this is a major change in your life, beginning to identify your emotions and thoughts, will help you once the move happens. The are numerous activities that can be done to start the resonation of this change. For instance, I write poetry and stories. I’ll start by what is called the “stream of consciousness”. Whatever goes through your mind, you just write down. I say write, and I’ll give you my reason why. Since you’ll be going through a range of emotions, you will find that your mind and body connection becomes much stronger, and the release is more fulfilling. Plus, have you ever typed when you were angry? You can go through keyboards like they’re going out of style. At least with a pen, they shouldn’t break. And if you’re using a pencil, you’re essentially helping yourself in two ways. Writing, and sharpening your pencil can be a physical release, so your helping with the physical energy, as well. I’m using anger as the example, and it will surface. You’re going to enter a range of emotions that are involved with grief. Just so your aware, it’s healthy. A sense of loss doesn’t only occur with the death of a loved one. We are losing a piece of ourselves, and the mind is trying to make sense of it all. It’s going to be difficult to see at first, so I’ll try to explain it in a way that makes sense.

Through social teachings, we usually identify grief with a death of a person. But when something happens to us, an experience that abruptly changes our whole life, we tend to minimize the problem. Some people may say, ‘That’s life’. Others may say, ‘Life isn’t fair.’ You know what I say to those people, “No Shit.” Those are the ones you want to keep your distance from. Their no help. You will however, and as much as I hate to say this, but other issues will surface. Like in my last example. You’ll find out who truly cares about you. Back to the sense of loss. This overwhelming feeling may not be identified as a loss just yet, but I can tell you that it’s there. In the previous article, I explained how the brain and mind react to an overload of information. Writing down how you feel and what you think, will ease the burden on the mind. Slow down your thinking, and soon it will begin to resonate.

The first stage of grief will show its ugly face. This is the stage of denial. This is a powerful mechanism of the mind. In this case, it may tell you that this move is hard to believe, or this can’t be happening. This is common, and the faster you identify, the faster you can begin the healing process. If you find yourself having a difficult time, do not hesitate to find a therapist or counselor. There is no shame in doing what’s best for you. But a therapist can only take you so far, they can’t force you to stop being in denial. Only you can. They can help identify, give you options, and help you analyze your thought process. There’s a type of therapy called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Here’s a definition of CBT;

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a type of psychotherapy. This form of therapy modifies thought patterns in order to change moods and behaviors.( https://www.healthline.com/health/depression/cognitive-behavioral-therapy)

Here’s a stuck point in which most people have with our own sense of loss. When it comes down to a physical death, we can view the deceased. I’m not going to get into religious traditions right now, but that topic will be discussed. If you’re a family member or loved one, you may see the deceased at a viewing or a funeral. That allows us to visually see, and that helps our mind internalize and comprehend the loss. But, when we are confronted by a loss of who we are, without the tangible proof, it’s difficult to comprehend. This isn’t about the actual shock of the news, it’s about who we are, and what this move is going to do to us. We’ll feel a disruption, not only physical, but a moral disruption. What was once comfortable and secure, is now threatened by imminent change. In tomorrows posting, I will discuss the next stage of loss, which is anger. If your feeling uncomfortable in any way, please don’t hesitate to message Free-Word. And if there is anything that you want me to discuss any deeper, send a comment, and let me know. I look forward to hearing from you. If you want to follow, I appreciate that as well. Thank you for reading Free-Word.

 

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